Think of a beginning meditator. A beginning meditator judges their meditations and says things like, “I can’t meditate. My mind is going a mile a minute.”
What the beginner eventually learns is that they are meditating correctly and learns to simply observe. This spirit of observation can inform your conversations.
Over time the meditator learns to accept what is happening in the meditation. Now that the meditator is accepting the din of thoughts in his or her mind, she or he can be more accepting of what the other person says in a conversation.
As the meditator continues, thoughts slow down and there may even be moments of peace. The meditator is now less frantic and can just be with the experience. When they bring this to a conversation, they don’t feel compelled to have an opinion on every topic. They can just be with the other person and listen.
For more information on how to relate to your thoughts during meditation: How to Relate to Your Thoughts During Meditation
©2017 Stephen L. Martin
Painting: Georges Lemmen–Plage à Heist