Recall a time when you were really on, a time when you were doing something and doing it well. Now notice your state of mind. It’s likely that you were so present with your activity that you had few if any thoughts. This means no judgments about how well you were doing. It means no thoughts about yourself period and you were at peak performance. If there are no thoughts of self when you are relating to others, how will they view you?
Now if you are being prideful, congratulating yourself in your thoughts while interacting with others, how will you come across to others?
If you are being hard on yourself and putting yourself down in your thoughts, how will you appear to those around you?
Arrogance and low self-esteem are products of thoughts of self.
True self-assuredness comes from inner silence.
©2016 Stephen L. Martin
Painting: Elasticity by Umberto Boccioni