I seek spirituality only when I am stressed, but not when happy. Is this OK?

I too, have had difficulty with only practicing my spirituality when I am in crisis. Then my spiritual teacher introduced us the idea that one’s practice is actually easier when things are going well. The spiritual strength developed during good times and neutral times helps during crises. We were given a practice where for a month we dedicated things like brushing our teeth and eating to our growth.

During one of the roughest times in my life, it gave me presence of mind. I was married to a woman who was addicted to anger. She got angry every day, usually over small stuff. Rather than feeling victimized, I decided I would practice being calm in the face of her anger.

I would make sure my breathing was deep, remind myself that it was her problem and not mine and I would meditate. After a year and a half, we separated. Several people commented on the change in me. I was much more relaxed than I was before my marriage.

I had used the crisis of my marriage to change in a positive way. Had I not practiced during the happy times and the neutral times, I couldn’t have done it.

So I encourage you to maintain your spiritual practice during the good times. It pays benefits.

©2016 Stephen L. Martin

Photo: Abbot of Watkungtaphao meditating.

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