Since unfulfilled expectations are disappointing, why do we keep continue to have them anyway?

An unfulfilled expectation causes disappointment. Even though we know this, we continue having expectations. It is a habit. I have worked on this from the beginning, the middle and the end of the process.

In the beginning, I try to nail things down when making plans, so that as little as possible is left unsaid. Then in the middle, I try to manage my expectations by realizing that things can go wrong. At the end, I manage my emotions when things go wrong.

For managing your emotions, I recommend getting a book on cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and learning the technique. This book is highly rated on Amazon:
Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy – Kindle edition by David D. Burns M.D.. Health, Fitness & Dieting Kindle eBooks @

You have to practice this again and again. It gets easier over time.

©2016 Stephen L. Martin

Painting: Disappointment by Julius Leblanc Stewart

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